So many people are struggling with their mental health, yet only a small proportion of those actively seek help.
A large part of this is because sadly a stigma around therapy definitely still exists.
Going to counselling was the best decision I ever made and I am always recommending it to my friends. Yet many people I speak to haven’t even considered it as they aren’t even sure that a therapist would be able to help them with the problems they are facing in their lives.
Because of that I have written 14 common reasons to go to therapy! I truly believe that therapy can help everyone to become happier and achieve or create goals in their life.
If you are one of those people who currently think that therapy is for ‘weak people‘ I could not disagree more.
Identifying problems in your life and looking for a solution is the first step. It then takes a special kind of strength to be able to put yourself in a place of complete vulnerability and examine the deepest and darkest corners of your mind.
So for those of you who are undecided about giving therapy a try and thinking about taking that step, this post is for you!
14 Reasons to go to Therapy
Low self esteem & Self Worth
If you suffer from low self worth, a therapist can work with you to find out the reasons for this and help you improve your self esteem. You probably have some deep rooted beliefs that you formed in your early years. A Therapist can help you identify and analyse these and help raise your self esteem.
If you feel empty and numb
If you feel empty and numb, that isn’t normal. For the longest time I felt like there was something wrong with me. Until I went to the therapist and she explained exactly how this had happened.
Subconsciously shutting off your emotions as a defense mechanism may seem like a good idea to some part of your body, but it comes back around later on in life. You can work with your therapist to learn how to release these emotions and work towards feeling alive again.
All of us are somewhere on the anxiety spectrum. We all worry about things, but sometimes the worry and panic become unbearable. We analyse and ruminate and feel like something bad is waiting just around the corner for us.
Anxiety is different in each person, and only you will know when it is interfering too much with your life and you want to decide to start doing something about it.
You feel overwhelmed
Sometimes there’s just too much going on in your life and you’re not sure where to start. You feel like you’re constantly behind and have too many things to think about. Learn how to calm your mind and where you should be focusing your energy when you work with your therapist.
If you suffer with depression, it may be ridiculously hard to motivate yourself to go and see a therapist. Depression makes you feel like there is no hope, there is no point, and you don’t even deserve the chance to get better anyway. Realise that this is the depression talking, and that no one deserves a life with depression.
You don’t enjoy the things you used to
Not enjoying things that you used to is usually one of the first signs that something is wrong. If this goes on for too long, life starts to seem like one big exhausting reality.
Everything becomes an effort and there seems no point to life if nothing brings you any joy (think dementors in Harry Potter here). There will always be bad parts of life. But we need to be able to experience the joys and good parts too.
Anger problems are one of the best reasons to go to therapy – because the anger seemingly comes out of nowhere.
You may be going along each day for a week smiling and loving life, then someone accidentally touches you and you EXPLODE. Sound familiar? You’re like, where did that come from? Extreme outbursts of anger may be a sign that not all is okay beneath the surface. The anger iceberg helps explain it pretty well.
you’re paralysed by indecision
You find it difficult to decide what to have for breakfast let alone an important career decision! I used to wonder how people were able to make decisions with such ease, when I would analyse every possible outcome and be paralysed by fear that I would be making the wrong decision.
You can’t Forgive
We all know we should be able to forgive people – but then why is it so damn hard?! Some people don’t deserve forgiving. But holding onto this anger affects you more than it does them.
Carrying it around with you the whole time and rumination of something is really unhealthy. A therapist can help you work through these issues and help you be able to deal with a situation in the healthiest way for you.
You can’t let go
You may have been dumped by someone 2 years ago. Or maybe you need to face the fact that one of your goals just isn’t possible any more. In the same way as above, rumination of these events and not being able to let things go is harmful for you and prevents you from moving on in your life. A therapist can help you see why you find it so hard to let go, and help you move forward.
There are many compulsive behaviours that may interfere with our daily lives. OCD, kleptomania, or BFRBs like Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania.
These can make us feel like something is wrong with us and make us feel shameful. This has massive repercussions on self esteem which is why it is a good idea to see a therapist if you feel they are affecting your life too much.
you feel like something is wrong
Something just doesn’t feel right in your life and you’re sure something is wrong. Is this what life is? Are you doing it right?
I always had a feeling deep down that something wasn’t right and I would search the internet for answers without ever finding an answer. Therapy has helped me work it all out and organise my thoughts. If you feel like this then a therapist can help you pinpoint what it is you’re feeling.
you feel stuck
You might feel like you are cornered and running out of options in your life. Counselling helps you out of this feeling of being stuck and helps you gain more control over your life so that you can work towards creating the life that you’ve always wanted.
You think it would help
You can go to a therapist simply because you want to. Everything may be going great in your life, but you may just want to give it a try and see if you can improve your life in any other way! If there wasn’t so much stigma a lot more people would be willing to give it a try.